Counselling, in a psychological setting, is defined as a relationship between yourself and a professionally trained expert who helps you to overcome your issues. In grief, though, whilst it is common not to want to feel the way we do, the idea of overcoming your situation is not necessarily how it works.

At Heartfelt, we openly celebrate the life of a loved one who has died. We do this by talking about them to people, openly and honestly. Guided by Catholic teachings and wisdom we explore faith through prayerful reflection, meditation and music.

If we follow Jesus’ contemplative journey, it was not confined to solitude. We, too, can reorient our grief journey from a place of solitude to interaction so that the feeling of aloneness in grief can be punctuated by moments of aliveness.

As something is taken away, the emptiness that surrounds us beckons to be attended to. Therapy and counselling are two terms that can be interchanged. However, they each have quite distinct meanings that set them apart from each other.

Grief is something that we all experience at some point in our lives. We witness the death of nature over and over again all around us, we lose pets, friendships, jobs, houses, and finally, we lose people that we love, which brings us into contact with one of the most profound experiences of loss.

Entering solitude allows us to feel and hear the very heartbeat of God within our own heart, which is the ultimate grief therapy, as that is how we connect and continue the bonds with our lost loved ones.

In suffering, as Catholics we can grieve in community. Sharing our deep aloneness in prayers, creates a bond within the group that makes grief possible.

In grief, we are taken to the place of suffering that we know so well in Jesus. It is the intimate knowledge of the cross for Him that supports us and in grief we learn to bear our own cross with courage and vulnerability.