Healing and Finding Hope

What Can We Do Courageously in Our Most Vulnerable Moments: Healing and Finding Hope?

Grief is Holy ground. It is sacred because it’s the dwelling place of loss that gets distilled into a rare and purified love of longing and healing. And why Holy? Because that love, although seemingly absent now, is paradoxically animated and alive in spirit. This spirit is what supports us to hope, even in our darkest hour.

But the heartache of grief, a place of sorrow and despair, leads us into very vulnerable territory where we are called to explore with courage, the potential of our God deep within. The root of the word Courage comes from the Latin “Cor” meaning heart. The heart’s love has the potential to make us strong, brave and prepared to come forward with how we “know” we feel, not with how we “think we should” feel.

Being called to feel with courage in the vulnerability of grief is our anchor and consolation which supports us in the process of healing. Ironically, God can feel absent to us in these times. If God was here, we often say, why would this have happened? But as Catholics we know that God is not a puppeteer who controls what happens to us. God is presence in every moment, no matter what happens, and God is always there to meet us in our darkest hour as well as shine with us in the light. Our God is, if nothing else, completely inclusive. God is the courage, God is the vulnerability, God is Love and God is Love lost.

Vulnerability, whilst uncomfortable, is the gateway to empathy and belonging. Having the courage to be vulnerable in grief, is the key to walking through the eye of the needle (Luke 18:25) or the dark night of the soul (St. John of the Cross) as we are stripped of certainty and stability to cross over the threshold into something new, rich and full of potential.